Streamline your search for that special someone with these tips and tricks for optimising your online dating experience:
Fill up your profile
The fuller your profile is, the more interest it will attract, so it’s important to make sure it’s complete with pictures and a personal description that’s unique to you. Investing thought and effort into your profile will go a long way.
Love at first sight…
Your photo is the first thing a potential date will see - so it needs to be current, clear and welcoming; one that encourages someone to read further. Use it to show yourself in your best light; a photo that shows you looking natural and happy doing something you enjoy will be more attractive than one that’s overly formal or clichéd. This means avoid sunglasses, selfies and group shots where no one can tell who you are!
Be specific in your self-description
Just like with your photos, you want to avoid clichés in your personal description. Even if you are loyal, fun and easy-going, so many other profiles say the exact same thing that you’ll never stand out from the crowd. Instead, be specific! If you’re proud of the lobster fishing business you developed from scratch, then say so! Whether you love racing cars, medieval architecture, 1980’s rom-coms or all three – let us know in your profile. Not only does this offer an insight into your personality but it gives plenty of scope to get a conversation started.
Don’t just wait for them to come to you!
You’re more likely to meet the right person if you actively look for them, rather than just hoping they’ll pop up in front of you. Is there something specific you’re looking for in a partner, or a certain hobby you’d love them to share? Instead of leaving it up to chance, use our browser to tailor your search.
Don’t be afraid to make the first move
Male members are traditionally more proactive online, but a lot of men also say that they find it refreshing when a woman starts up a conversation first. While it’s easier said than done, there really is no reason to be afraid to make the first move. You never know what can happen unless you try! Keep things short to start with – asking a question about something in their profile is a good way to begin – and don’t be disheartened or take it personally if they don’t always respond!
How to begin a conversation
Keep your first message short, but make it clear that you have read their profile. If it says they love film, ask them what their favourite movies are; if they love travelling, ask them about where they’ve been. Starting a conversation with a generic, one-word greeting won’t make you seem like an interesting person, and they’ll be less likely to reply, whereas an interesting question will get conversation flowing right away.
Moving things offline
Don’t let online messaging go on for too long. Remember; you’re talking to a real person at the other end of the computer and you’re looking for a real relationship – there’s no point letting it build up too much online in case it doesn’t materialize in real life. But don’t put too much pressure on yourself when taking a potential date from online into real life. Sometimes online chemistry doesn’t translate when you’re face to face, and that’s ok! It doesn’t mean it will be the same for every date you go on so don’t be too disappointed. Likewise, bear in mind that some people are far more charismatic in person; so if conversation isn’t flowing online don’t rule out the possibility of a date.
If you keep an open mind and a positive approach it’s far more likely that you’ll meet someone who’s right for you, and when you do you’ll know it’s been worth the wait!
Now you’re a bit more clued in on online dating tips, tricks and etiquette, head back to our main website to create your FREE HelloYou account.
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