Most Common Lies In Online Dating

In a survey of 1000 single online daters, it has come to light that 53% of them have lied in their profiles.

The fact that you can’t get away with lying in your profile for long doesn’t prevent a lot of people from doing it. Don't let this put you off - it's not to say that every person you speak to on the internet is lying to you - but we've all heard one story or another about turning up to your date and being met with Frankenstein when you were expecting Prince Charming, or finding out that they're a vegan activist as you take your seats at the burger pop-up you'd picked for the date.

According to the survey, women are 10% more likely to lie than men, with their most common porky pie being about their looks. This means weight, shape and even hair, frequently in the form of outdated photos, which 20% of women are guilty of doing! 

Men's top lie is about having a job that is better than the one they've actually got; although women aren't much better at this one either! 40% of men and a third of women have stretched the truth regarding their professions; making it sound more glamorous and even intimating that they earn a far higher salary than they do in reality. 

  Here are the top ten lies told by each sex:

Top 10 Lies Told by Men
Job
Height
Weight
Physique
Money
More senior than they really are at work 
More interesting profession than they actually have
Knowing celebrities
Having an assistant or employees
Working in the film industry

Top 10 Lies Told by Women

Weight
Age
Physique
Height
Money
Bust
Glamorous profession
Knowing celebrities
Having an assistant or employees
Working in entertainment

Are you irritating your date?

We've all got our own people pet peeves, but according to a recent survey of over 8000 men and women there are a certain few that are particularly niggling on a first date. And interestingly, men and women ranked their annoyances differently.... 

Women were particularly anti their dates being over-confident, while they were more likely to be lenient if their date were late. The pie chart below breaks it down even more... 

Men, on the other hand, were most opposed to women being on their phones during a date, because they thought she would either be gossiping with her friends about him or talking to other men! 

If you know you're prone to a sneaky insta scroll/BBC news check up (each to their own) in someone else's company, make sure you keep the habit in check at least on a first date! However, 68% of women and nearly half of the men in the survey actually said they would prefer a night in + takeaway than going on a first date at all.... = 

Writing Your First Message

Writing the first message to an online match is not quite as simple as just saying hello… But it’s not rocket science either! 

To make a good first impression, think about some of the following when you’re writing your opening message to a HelloYou match:

o Keep it snappy. If you write too much straight away your match will only get bored/scared.

o Don’t use ‘text’ speak. It won’t make u sound lyk the intelligent individual that u r. 

o ‘Hi’ and ‘hey’ are likely to be yawned over. Get creative, get specific.

o Don’t copy and paste the same message! It might seem like a convenient cheat sheet to online dating, but generic messages are easy to spot. Putting in the time to write something that’s tailored to each person you speak to will pay off!

o Comment on something in their profile; this proves you’ve read it and it will make your match feel that you’re interested in them so they’ll be more interested to reply.

o If you read something in their profile that you have in common it’s a good thing to mention in your message.

o Don’t go on about yourself. 

o Ask a question; it makes it easier for them to reply!

o Don’t exaggerate or invent shared interests. 

So with all that in mind, here’s an example of a first message that would encourage a reply:

Hi Anna, 

Your interest in film really caught my eye when I read your profile; although I generally prefer comedy to drama, I definitely count the Godfather Trilogy among my favourite films too. I’ve never read The Great Gatsby though; why do you love it so much? 

Or something even shorter… 

New Zealand is my dream destination, but I’ve never been! What made you decide to leave? 

Give it a try yourself! Head back to www.helloyoudating.com to start looking for your next date.