Post-Divorce Dating

Returning to dating is usually a necessary evil for anyone who has been through a divorce, and after being married it can certainly come as a shock to the system. Depending on how long you were married, the dating scene might also have changed entirely, leaving you with brand new territory to navigate. Even if that is the case, there are certain guidelines that will always apply…

1.    Present yourself with confidence:

Just because your marriage didn’t work out, it doesn’t mean your future relationships are doomed to failure. Filling your life with positive things and reminding yourself of how great you are will go a long way to making your dating endeavours more successful. It’s a well-known fact that confidence is attractive, so put your best foot forward and approach dates with your brilliance in mind!

2.    Do not give up on the way you look:

This isn’t to say that you need to look a certain way; it simply means that you should take care of your appearance. This is super simple and generally goes without saying – keep clean, wear clean clothes, sleep well, and keep your body healthy. Not only will this make you look more attractive in itself, but it will help you feel fresher and happier, which will make you more attractive too!

3.    Do not compare yourself to others:

If you’re not in your twenties, don’t try to pretend you are and don’t worry about not looking ‘as good’ as those who are. Too old, too young, too fat, too thin… Banish Goldilocks syndrome and embrace whatever stage of life you are at right now. This self-acceptance will be far more attractive than dolling yourself up to mirror someone who is thirty years younger! Plus, comparisons are only going to make you feel bad about yourself when there’s absolutely no need to.

4.     Do not assume you know what will or will not be attractive:

Moulding yourself to what you imagine your date might want you to be is go-to behaviour for lots of people getting back on the dating scene. This is understandable if you want it to go well but you’re not a mind reader, and it’s far healthier to back off from this way of operating. You can’t know what someone else wants, so all you can do is be the best you can. If they don’t find that attractive then they’re not right for you anyway! Besides, doing things you love and being the person you are is far more impressive than fitting in with what everyone else wants. Be a person you’d be impressed by, and you’ll blow your date away too.

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